Saturday, October 30, 2010

Weekend Round-Up #56


Here are some great reads from around the internet this week:


FINANCIAL:

FAMILY/LIFE:

FAITH:


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Friday, October 29, 2010

Almost Time to Drive the Postal Service Crazy

You know Christmas is around the corner when you start receiving warm wishes and photos of the children of everyone you've ever met. Yes, we are guilty of this too. Before we had children we sent out Christmas cards, but not nearly as many...and never with our photos on them. I mean seriously...who wants to see us?

But our children? That is another story altogether! They are adorable and since I know you'll think so too, I am sending you a picture of them. That way you'll know how they look at least once a year! =)

Creating holiday photo cards is easier than ever these days. You simply upload your own photos, create your own text and have them shipped right to your front door! It's so simple!

Since there are several sites these days and enable you to create your own cards, how can you possibly choose which one to go with? Is it great prices? Great quality? Great selection of sizes? Great selection of templates? A variety of occasions to choose from? What if I told you that Shutterly can meet all of those needs and there really is no reason to look elsewhere! That's my opinion, of course, but after ordering from them and two other similar companies, I can tell you that I was most pleased when using Shutterfly!

Here is just a brief sampling of what they offer:

Traditional

Non-Traditional

Fun

Something simple

Or possibly a collage (if you can't make up your mind...like me!)

A Family Portrait

Showing off the Little One(s)


They really do offer so many choices that you are bound to find something you absolutely love!

We ordered Abigail's photo birth announcements through Shutterfly and had an outstanding experience! We found just the right design to show off all of the adorable pictures we want to, found some great coupon codes to use while ordering (Shutterfly offers so many great ones throughout the year!), and were pleased with the price, quality, and the speed at which they arrived! I could not have been happier!

Shutterfly offers much more than photo Christmas cards, you know! You can also get Hanukkah cards, Christmas address labels, Christmas invitations or stationery Christmas cards. And those are just for your holiday needs! There are so many other occasions to use them throughout the year, you really should get really familiar with them!

So make sure to keep them on your shopping list! You won't be disappointed!


For writing this post, I received 50 free photo cards that we will be using for our Christmas cards this year. My experience with the company (and the others mentioned) is real and my opinions are not influenced by this offer. If you have a blog and want free photo cards, follow this non-affiliate link.

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Stuck in the Middle

If you are just joining us from Carnival of Money Stories – Halloween Aftermath Edition hosted by Live Real, Now, I want to extend a warm welcome to you. Things look a little crazy around here right now, as I just started a series of giveaways to enter for Christmas goodies. It will run the entire month of November, featuring over 30 sponsors. Feel free to join in! If you don't want to win stuff, feel free to stick around and browse about anyway. We'd love for you to hang out for a while!

We've been on our debt repayment plan for 1 year now. Following Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover we established a tiny emergency fund and started paying off debt.

Our first steps were the big ones.

  • We sold off a lot of stuff including a third car that was Chip's "play" car. (I still applaud him for that).
  • We downgraded in vehicles to use the profit off the sale of the van to pay off debt.
  • I had already learned how to shop frugally, but in the past the money I was saving in shopping was not being spent wisely. So our debt was not being eliminated in these efforts. That changed.
  • We refinanced our home to save over $250/month in mortgage payments.
  • We basically stopped buying things unless they were necessary (with the exception of food. Eating out is where we still struggle).

We banked a lot of money up front. We made a lot of progress. In the first year, we've paid off $19,170.86 and increased our net worth by $32,328.22.

It was fun.

Now it isn't as fun.

The progress is slower now.

Life sometimes hits you hard and that large payment you wanted to send to pay off a big chuck of debt is retargeted to pay an unexpected doctor's bill or car repair.

I feel stuck.

I know the end of the road is out there, but since I'm not approaching it as quickly as I once was and the ride isn't as exciting as it used to be, I am starting to get bored of the trip.

Not bored enough to turn around, of course. I mean, that would be totally counter productive and stupid.

But just tired of being on the road.

"Are we there yet?" is a pretty good analogy of how I feel about our debt repayment at this point. And no, we aren't. We aren't even halfway there in fact.

I'm trying to find encouragement along the way, but that isn't always easy.

I mean, it's cool to read about someone's success about becoming debt free and celebrate with them. But in the end, it's just a reminder that I'm not there yet. And that is depressing.

I try to help others see that mindless spending is not smart and going to catch up with them one day. Hopefully they will wise up before it does. But then I feel completely unequipped to do that because how am I any better with our loads of debt that still haunts me?

Sadly it is so much easier and takes so much less time to get into this mess than to get out.

And I'm tired of trying.

I'm not going to stop.

But I need some encouragement. Some inspiration. Some cheerleading.

Anybody know where I can get that? Am I just being a whiny baby who needs to deal with the damage we've done and shut up?

Are we there yet?


Photo credit: runrunrun

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

T Minus 5 Days and Counting...

November 1st is a big day around Mrs Nespy's Frugal World. The anticipation is growing. I'm getting excited and I hope you are too.


November 1st is the kick off of the I'm Dreaming... series of giveaways that I have lined up just in time for you to win stuff for people on your Christmas list. The last of these giveaways will end on November 30th and it is the sponsors' intent to get your winnings to you before Christmas!

And I've got 34 sponsors lined up ready to send some of their best products your way!

Just look at this list!

Curious Chef
Chunky Bling
Glee Gum
Ecover
Overall Beauty
Crazy Dog Tshirts
Vitalicious
Blushing Dove Boutique
Boogie Wipes
JumbieLand
Lil Doodlers
Floaty Toes Dry Goods
Nordic Ware
Time Timer
Paradise Purls
A Summer Afternoon
Eclipse Spa
My Baby Clothes Boutique
What On Earth
Geek Chic Cosmetics
Dali Decals
Gimmee Jimmy's Cookies
Charm Factory
Que Interesante
The Cutting Etch
Yoga Toes
Nevita
Poppin' Dots Boutique
Oliver's Labels
Simple Serendipity
ABC Neckties
Nacho Mama Tees
The Cream Perfume Company
Ambernee Crochet

So you can see based on the mere number of sponsors that many days will have more than one giveaway assigned to it! You'll have to be on your toes to catch them all (although I will keep a running list of open ones in my sidebar).

So who else is excited about this one? Do you see anyone on this list that you are REALLY hoping to win something from?

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Tuesday Free For All - 10/26

Lots of great freebies, sweepstakes, and giveaways out there right now. Go check them out. And make sure you visit the sights where I get this info (listed at the bottom of the post!).

FREEBIES:
SWEEPSTAKES:
GIVEAWAYS:




*Huge thanks to my sources: Thunder Fap, PointClickHome, Elle, Woman’s Day Magazine, The Freebie Blogger, Deal Seeking Mom, Couponing 101, Free Sample Freak, The Good Deal Gal, A Few ShortCuts, Friend Family Savings, Better Homes & Gardens, SwagGrabber, Budget Help$, Mommies with Cents, & "Deal"icious Mom

Photo credit: Steven Vance

Monday, October 25, 2010

8 Financial Discussions to Have With Your Spouse (or Fiance)

Welcome visitors from the Carnival of Personal Finance #281: Halloween Candy Edition hosted by Consumerism Commentary. I hope you enjoy your stay here. You happened upon my blog at the beginning of a series of giveaways that will be going on. You can see the current ones listed in the right sidebar. Find something around here you like and stick around for a while. We'd love to have you!


Getting married is a huge commitment. You promise to put up with another person on their ugliest of days, take care of them no matter what, stay true to them exclusively, grow old and ornery with them, and figure out how to put up with their most annoying of habits that seem "cute" before about 2 years into the wedded bliss stage.

Sorry to glamorize it for you. =)

Seriously...don't get me wrong. I love my husband dearly and I am so glad that I can still call him my closest and dearest friend. But together we haven't always been smart with money. Some of it was out of stubbornness, some out of stupidity, and some out of naivety. So I'm going to tell you that there are (at least) 8 financial discussions that you and your betrothed should discuss before the big day. If you've already passed that day and haven't had these discussions yet, it's never too late to get started!
  1. Debt: "Hey there, Baby. How high is that balance on your credit card?" isn't the sexiest pick up line. But it is something you definitely ought to know before taking on the legal liability of that card as the spouse. Yep...even if your name is not on it, the whole "what's yours is mine" rule applies unless there is some sort of legal pre-nup you guys have created. Crazily enough, there are some people who go into marriages having NO IDEA what they are getting themselves into debt-wise. It's not too rude or personal to ask the person you are about to wake up next to with morning breath. It's essential.
  2. Financial History: Does your fiance have something in their financial past that might make joint accounts a problem? Believe it or not, some people go into their relationships without disclosing they have a foreclosure or bankruptcy in the past. They feel that now they are "past" it, they do not want to feel its pain again. However, a lot of bitterness will result if one spouse discovers they were clueless about a prior financial offense that might delay or incapacitate your ability to buy a car or house or furniture together.
  3. Financial Goals: What is the plan? Do you both want to work forever? What do you want to do in retirement? Do you want to stay at home as a wife and/or mother? Do you even HAVE a goal? Sure, goals can change, but it is good to at least have these discussions to start the planning process. And these goals aren't written in stone, so they can develop and reshape as life requires. Just talk about it though!
  4. Joint Accounts? Will you have a joint checking account? Will you have separate checking accounts? Will you have one joint one for the bills and separate ones for spending? You have to decide what works best for your situation and personalities and go with it.
  5. Who will Handle the Account? If you go with a joint one, who is going to handle the bill paying, balancing, and overall being responsible that bills get paid on time and you don't overdraw the account?
  6. Do You Have a Spending Limit? Once again, if you go with a joint account with no side spending accounts, how much can one person spend (single transaction, per month, per week) without having to check in with the other. This requires some evaluation of your spending habits. If you set a $100 limit, it doesn't make sense for one person to spend $99 each and every day without checking in, so you might need a weekly limit. Find out what works best for you.
  7. When/How Will We Discuss Money? Money is a very emotional topic. Strange, but true. You don't want to do it when you are rushed or prone to being stressed. You shouldn't do it in bed (leave the bedroom for other things). You shouldn't do it while one spouse is preoccupied (during Monday Night Football, for example). Pick a time or place to do it and reserve your conversations for that time unless necessity requires otherwise.
  8. Lastly, And Probably Most Importantly: The Budget: You will have new bills together as well as possibly more money via combined incomes. A new budget is required. If you've never lived on a written budget, this is definitely time to start. You or your spouse-to-be may feel that you've always had control of your spending without having to write it down. And that may be true. But now that someone else will have full access to your account(s) with you, it will prove trickier than you know to keep up with everything. Make sure those debts, goals, and incomes are reflected accurately in a written budget. It's okay if the first one isn't perfect. You can alter it to fit your needs as you figure out what your (as a couple) spending habits and needs will be. You will also change it as life makes you change it (raises, children, medical bills, etc). But get it in writing so you have a starting point.

Although these are the non-romantic details of a marriage, you cannot ignore those less-beautiful sides of this union. I promise you there is nothing less romantic than a couple who are constantly fighting over finances and making accusations because they never discuss how to do this together. No amount of love will conquer that.

Talk it out. Take control of your money rather than letting it control you and your relationship.

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Saturday, October 23, 2010

Weekend Round-Up #55

FINANCIAL:

FAMILY/LIFE:


FAITH:

FUN:

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Friday, October 22, 2010

Friday Faves - How Many Biebers Could YOU Take?

How many Justin Biebers could you take in a fight?

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Come back and let me know how you did.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Check Out Money Index!

I am quite a bit under the weather today (as I was yesterday), so I am not really up to writing today.

But I did want to point you to Money Index. This is an awesome collection of some of the best money and personal finance bloggers around and their 5 most recent posts. I think I can scan through this every 2-3 days and seriously pare down my Google Reader list! It would certainly give me a more direct approach to finding the posts I am wanting to read and not dreading the hundreds of posts waiting on me in my reader each day!

So go over and check it out!

I'm on Money Index

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Fill In The Blank...

Let's have a quick chat.


I knew I had become an adult when __________.

I'll start:
when the teenagers at church started saying "Yes ma'am" to me. I know they were trying to be polite, but come on!

Leave your answer in the comments below. =)

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Tuesday Free For All - 10/19

FREEBIES:

SWEEPSTAKES:


GIVEAWAYS:




Huge thanks to my sources: Thunder Fap, PointClickHome, Elle, Woman’s Day Magazine, The Freebie Blogger, Deal Seeking Mom, Couponing 101, Free Sample Freak, The Good Deal Gal, A Few ShortCuts, Friend Family Savings, Better Homes & Gardens, SwagGrabber, Budget Help$, Mommies with Cents, & "Deal"icious Mom

Photo credit: VickyvS

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Weekend Round-Up #54

So this isn't nearly as big as my usual weekly round up, but it has been a chaotic week at work AND home and I just haven't had the time at put this post together. However, I wanted to leave you with a few great reads!

Photo credit: Mr Wabu

Friday, October 15, 2010

Friday Faves - I Took the Twitter Spelling Test

The Twitter Spelling Test

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Even if you don't use Twitter (it really has nothing to do with Twitter specifically), go take it and leave a comment here letting us know how you did!

Thursday, October 14, 2010

What Wouldn't You Do?


Times are tight. Many people are taking on jobs that really aren't their dream jobs.

Some people have jobs that are undesirable to others just because they don't mind and the pay is worth it to them.

However, some jobs just could never pay enough.

This week at work we had a problem. A big problem.

I am the Engineering Manager at a manufacturing facility. This means that I make sure the machines are running efficiently. I make sure that we are conserving energy and being responsible. I make sure we are shopping around for the lowest price for supplies and services.

I am also the manager of the facilities and maintenance department.

Let's just say that this side of my job is not always as glorious as it sounds (do you note a bit of sarcasm there? You should).

This wee we had a problem. In a break room that is just below my office.

Let's just say one word will summarize, and I will leave you to imagine what I'm talking about.

The word?

Infestation.

Yes, people. Infestation.

Now...I will let your imagination run away with you. Because you're probably right. Or not even nearly right.

It was bad, people.

We're taking care of it now. And part of that process is having that area cleaned, scoured, stripped, and taken apart completely. We asked some of our temporary workers if they would be interested in doing this task for a little extra money.

It's amazing how many people were NOT willing to do it regardless of the money. Or maybe it's not that amazing. But I was surprised.

And it brought up a really good question that I will now pose to you.

What job would you never do regardless of pay?

At one time I thought I could handle bugs. I am the bug killer in our family. However after this past Monday, let's just say that exterminator is something I could not do. A bug I can do. A colony? No thank you.

Otherwise, I could not be a spelunker. I am claustrophobic and would totally freak out if I didn't have a clearly blazed path of exit before me.

Bugs and suffocation. Those would do me in.

What about you? I mean, something totally moral and legal. What totally legitimate job would you NEVER do because of a "ick" factor or a fear you have?

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Wednesday, October 13, 2010

WFMW - Unusual Place to Put Vicks

As cooler weather approaches, so do the stuffy noses, runny noses (seriously...how can they be stuffy and runny at the same time?!), and the like. With little ones in daycare we exponentially increase our risk each year of getting and keeping colds.

What works for us?

A few years ago when Patrick was little, an experienced mom told us to put Vapor rub on the bottoms of his feet. This would work better than on his chest, she said.

We thought it sounded crazy, but we tried it anyway.

You know what?

It worked! It worked much better than putting it on his chest. And why is that?

I have no idea.

I don't know if it stays on better or if it absorbs through his feet (you know those weird Chinese get-the-toxins-out-via-your-feet pads) or what, but it works.

I can't tell you why, but I can tell you that it works for me.

Go visit We Are THAT Family to see what works for everyone else too!

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Tuesday Free For All - 10/12

FREEBIES:

SWEEPSTAKES:

GIVEAWAYS:




Huge thanks to my sources: Thunder Fap, PointClickHome, Elle, Woman’s Day Magazine, The Freebie Blogger, Deal Seeking Mom, Couponing 101, Free Sample Freak, The Good Deal Gal, A Few ShortCuts, Friend Family Savings, Better Homes & Gardens, SwagGrabber, Budget Help$, Mommies with Cents, & "Deal"icious Mom

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Monday, October 11, 2010

8 Ways a Bigger House Can Cost You

Bigger is better, right?

I mean, we live in a society where that is true in most things. We upsize our value meals; restaurants have increased their portion sizes over time; we like SUVs when we only have 2 children to transport. We've some home come to the "realization" that bigger must be better.

And I too have succumbed to this mindset in so many areas of my life. Including house buying. In the first house that we bought, we had three rooms that were only touched about 2 or 3 times a year. In the current house we have a living room that rarely gets used in any way other than an entry and a spare bedroom (yes, we have guests, but 90% of the year it is unused). It's crazy.

And it's costly.

So many others have figured it out before I have and have downgraded their homes. They have decided to live on less. Not out of necessity, but out of pure choice. To simplify their lives. They have figured out that owning a bigger house costs more. And in many more ways than the obvious. Let's look at eight ways owning a bigger house can stretch your finances.

  1. Purchase Price: Of course more square footage will cost you more up front. This is pretty much a no-brainer, but I had to list the obvious.
  2. Taxes: And certainly a larger house will require more taxes from your city, county, etc. This is really no surprise either, but one that is probably not on the forefront of your mind when buying a home.
  3. Insurance: More area to protect/cover = more costly premiums. This also should be a given, but we don't all think about it going into a purchase.
  4. Furnishing: If you have an extra bedroom that you plan to use as a bedroom for guests, you most likely will still buy a bed for it. A bed that no one sleeps in for the majority of the year. You will probably buy a nightstand, an alarm clock, a lamp, and maybe a dresser as well. That's several hundred dollars that you would not have spent if you didn't feel you needed a guest bedroom.
  5. Cleaning: It's absolutely more costly to clean a bigger house. I don't mean in hiring a maid, although if you do this, you will pay more. I mean in cleaning products and in your time. And you do have to clean those "unused" rooms because dust collects, water in the toilets stain, and dirt from the A/C scatters.
  6. Bills: Heating and cooling a larger home will surely cost more. You can close off vents and close doors to unused rooms, but now your heating/cooling system is not working as it was designed to and you may be putting unnecessary strains on the unit.
  7. Maintenance: Which brings us to maintenance. The more sinks you have, the more possibilities to need to replace a faucet. The larger the AC unit is, the more costly it is to repair.
  8. Clutter: The more walls you have, the more likely you are to buy things to hang on them. The more furniture you have, the more likely you will feel the need to buy some type of decor to accessorized it. And knickknacks not only clutter your home, they clutter your mind too. Have you ever met a collector of all chotchkies? Are they crazy to collect those items or crazy because they have collected those items? I think it is cyclic.

So there it is. My list of ways that buying a larger home can really strain your budget. Some are quite obvious, but some are not clear until you find yourself not wanting to clean those 4 bathrooms every week or change out those 5 light bulbs throughout the bedrooms. Owning a larger home can be a strain--especially when it is totally unnecessary for life.

Photo credit: hcampbellk

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Weekend Round-Up #53


FINANCIAL:

FAMILY/LIFE:

FAITH:

FUN:


Photo credit: Ben Haldenby

Friday, October 8, 2010

Friday Faves - Missy the Cat

If you haven't seen this yet, you have been deprived. If you have seen it, you know it is worth reading again. Either way, if you are around people who get easily annoyed by laughing so hard you cry, you might want to wait for another time to read it. And by the way...if you have trouble reading the text on the pictures, click to enlarge. I promise it will be worth the trouble!

Secretary at design agency loses her cat and asks graphic designer to create a ‘Missing’ poster.














This ‘Missing Cat’ email chain is the brainchild of Internet pot-stirrer, David Thorne -also the genius behind the spider email and popular book, The Internet is a Playground. Check out his website and strap on your funny bone pads. Not suitable for work.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Our Financial Status - Update #12 - September 2010

So, another month has gone by and here I am to confess our successes and our shortfalls.

INCOME:
$936 over budget. Hooray! Although one of Chip's paychecks was lower than normal (coming off a week of vacation and being paid hourly for that week), he got an extra one during the month along with one "high" one, so things were great.

UNDER BUDGET:
Baby Supplies: $31 over for the month, but since I have such a huge rolling budget on this one, I am still $154 under my rolling month-to-month budget in this category, I can afford to be over for a month. That's the point of having it roll. Hooray!
Hair care: Same as baby supplies. Although I was $17 over for the month, that's why I have this budget rolling, as I was still $13 under the total rolling budget.
Clothing: And as the two above--although I spent $4 over my monthly budget, I was still $44 below my rolling budget. I'm currently getting fall/winter clothes for the kids though, so this one might work itself out in October. We'll see!
Home Supplies: $2 under budget. Don't even remember what this purchase was for, but it fell within our guidelines.

ON BUDGET:
Mortgage/Timeshare/HOA: Nailed it.
Auto Insurance: No surprises here.
Term Life Insurance: Just as expected.
Mobile Phone: We were on budget for the month, but have a rolling $4 overage. I'm waiting to work itself out during a month or two when we are slightly under budget.
Alarm Monitoring: Bingo.
Pest Control: Once again, nothing unusual here.
Childcare: On our newly lowered budget. Hooray!

OVER BUDGET:
Gas/Fuel: $144 over budget. We traveled for Labor Day to visit family, so we used extra gasoline than usual. Additionally, Chip has not been assigned to a particular store (again) yet, so he is traveling a lot and I don't know how to reset the budget until we are more certain about where he will be traveling daily. So I'm leaving this alone until he has a "home" again.
Auto Service/Parts: $173 over budget. Chip's car needed a new windshield thanks to a large crack that mysterious showed up and ran right into his line of vision.
Television: $20 over budget, but I paid October's bill early, so it hit during September. It will work itself out
Power Bill/Water Bill: $199 over budget. I know, right? We actually paid two water bills this month because I paid the August one late. And our power bill was OUTRAGEOUS because August is horribly hot in Georgia and the bill we get in September is always AWFUL. Now that the weather is so very pleasant, I'm hoping to open some windows and balance out some of the overage from previous months!
Eating Out: $141 over budget. We really have no excuse. A lot of late dinners and poor grocery/meal planning made this happen. We did intentionally eat delivery pizza for Chip's birthday but have no excuse for this kind of overage.
Groceries: $113 over budget. It always depresses me when we eat out over budget AND have a over budget grocery category. It's pitiful and unnecessary. This was once again poor planning.
Doctor: $153 over budget. We didn't use a co-pay during this month (although I budget for one every month), but we did pay off the final $178 we owed from Chip's vasectomy! Hooray for the depletion of medical debt!
Pharmacy: $23 over budget. Chip was dying for some acid reflux medication and since we had used our budget in the previous months, there was no build up of credit in our rolling budget.
Home Services: $55 over budget. $15 was from e-mealz (I am going to add $5/month into this budget right now for that...not sure why I haven't already done that) and $40 was a renewal of our Sam's membership. Oh well.
Gift/Gift Shipping: $57 overage. We bought Patrick a birthday gift and a niece a birthday gift. Really not too bad considering....
Make-up/Toiletries: Although I spent nothing in this category, I'm still $6 over my rolling budget. Hopefully this one will work itself out soon.
Gas Station Snacks: $6 overage resulting from our traveling during Labor Day. This is a weakness of Chip's when stopping for gasoline.


ADDITIONAL COMMENTS:

  • We sent $719 over the minimum payment to the credit card that is next on our debt snowball list. I'm hoping to really throw some money at it in October! I just hate seeing the overages in un-necessities (like the eating out overages) and thinking about how much more I could have sent.
  • Emergency fund is good to go at $1500 still.
  • We paid off the remainder of all medical debt (we still previously had one $178 bill leftover from Chip's vasectomy that we have been putting off paying).
  • We paid $128 to renew our car tags. I didn't budget for it but we were able to pull it off still.
  • We spent $61 during September preparing for Patrick's birthday party. There won't be many additional costs to add during the October budget, so I think we pulled off his entire party for under $100 (including gifts!).
Change in Networth from October 14, 2009: + $29,887.31
Debt Paid off Since October 14, 2009: $18,218.38

And that is September in a financial nutshell at our house.

How did you do this month?
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